Are You Bringing Stress Home With You
March 7, 2008
According to the experts at the Centers for Disease Control and the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health, stress is linked to both physical and mental health, as well as decreased willingness to take on new and creative endeavors. With this kind of findings, it is no wonder that so many people feel burned out every single day.
In addition, researchers found that up to 40% of job burnout in the United States is due to stress. Stress affects millions of people every single day. Much of marital and family problems occur because of stress being brought home from the work place. Take this quick quiz to see if you are bringing stress home with you.
Directions: Answer YES or NO to the following questions.
1) Do you feel as stressed out when you walk in the door of your home as you did when you left work?
2) Do you have a daily after-work routine that allows you to unwind and de-stress?
3) Do your work problems weigh heavily on your mind, even when you are trying to have a nice relaxing evening at home?
4) Do you find it difficult to carry on a conversation with your spouse that doesn’t have something to do with work-related issues?
5) Are you able to deal with problems at work in a calm manner?
If you answered YES to three or more of these questions, chances are you are bringing stress home with you. Here are some possible solutions you should try:
· Sign up for a gym pass. Go at least 3 days per week after work to work out your frustrations.
· See a therapist. Sometimes all you need is a good therapist to listen to you and help you figure out how to better deal with work stress.
· Go for massage therapy. A professional masseuse can do wonders for tired, sore muscles that are due to stress.
4 Ways to Show Your Children You Love Them
March 3, 2008
Children can be wild and rambunctious at times, but they still need to know that Mom and Dad love them all the same. How often do you tell your children you love them? How often do you do little things to show them they are loved? Here are some simple tips you can use:
1. Write a love note. Kids love mail. A simple, quick and easy way to show your child you love her is to write her a love note. A message as simple as “I love you!” or “Hope you have a wonderful day at school today!” is enough to make your child feel loved by you.
2. Play a fun board game together. Most children also enjoy playing board games. This is a really terrific way to bond and connect with your child. Making it a family affair can truly bring the entire family unit together as a team and create a deeper connection and sense of love in your children.
3. Ask about their day. Kids love to talk to their parents about their day. When school is in session, they love sharing what they learned. As your children grow older into pre-teens and teens, encourage them to share without being overly adamant about it. Just knowing that you are there to listen often means more than them saying anything to you.
4. Say THANK YOU. Kids are often taken by surprise when a parent says, “Thank you” for a job well-done. Surprise your child by doing so when he/she does something great. You’ll be surprised at how far a simple word of thanks will go.
Find Your Perfect Mate with the Law of Attraction
February 25, 2008
The law of attraction is simple. It states that whatever you focus your thoughts and attention on is what you will attract into your life. But can the law of attraction be used to find your perfect mate? Yes, I believe it can, and I have a story to share with you about how this happened for a friend of mine. I’ll call her Janie…
Janie was involved in an unhealthy relationship. It was an on again, off again kind of relationship. And it seemed to everyone (except Janie) that this relationship was not healthy for her.
Janie claimed that she loved this guy. She enjoyed spending time with his family and she truly thought that he was “the one” for her. However, as time passed by, it became clearly evident that this guy was not committed to this relationship as Janie was.
Arguments would ensue and upon the final break-up, Janie became emotionally distraught. She couldn’t eat. She couldn’t sleep. She clearly missed having this person in her life, even though he was not devoted to her.
I gave Janie a journal and told her that this was not just an ordinary journal. This was a special journal, in which she’d write about all the things she wanted in a man and in a relationship. I encouraged her to put all her feelings on paper and really get it out there—what she wanted.
Janie contacted me later to tell me about some of the things she’d written in her journal. She told me about how it had helped her overcome the loss of her relationship.
Here’s the interesting thing…now, years later, Janie is married to the man of her dreams and they are awaiting the birth of their first child. By using something as simple as journaling her greatest desires in a relationship, Janie subconsciously created a path to marriage and a family.
Decide what you want. Focus only on that. Then go for it.
