How to Deal With Your Spouse’s New Wife
October 13, 2008
When you took your marriage vows, you probably never imagined you’d ever go through divorce. The word divorce probably never even entered your mind. Yet here you are. Not only are you divorced now, but you are forced to deal with the fact that your ex now has a new wife.
Dealing with new spouses is not an easy thing to do. There is a lot involved in these complicated relationships, but you can handle it with grace. Try these tips from others who have been in the same position as yourself.
1) Don’t overstep boundaries. Even though you were once married, you should respect your ex husband’s new wife and family. This is his new life, of which you have no say or part of. Do your best to respect this new relationship and avoid putting your nose where it doesn’t belong.
2) Don’t get in the middle. If your divorce was an amicable one, you may still keep in constant contact with your ex-husband. Be cautious not to get in the middle of squabbles between him and his new wife. This could produce major repercussions later on.
3) Don’t argue over your children. If you have children and share custody, don’t make them the starting point of all debate and arguments. Find a way to come to friendly terms with the fact that your ex will be in your life forever. Take special care in being considerate to each other for your children’s sake.
Dealing with a new spouse is never easy. But by following simple rules of consideration and respect for each other, you can get through it much easier.
Simple Ways to Show Your Teen You Care
June 11, 2008
Teenagers go through quite a bit of physical and emotional changes. If you are the parent of a teen, it is crucial that you make sure they know how much you care about them. Many parents fear of pushing their teens away from them if they show interest in their lives. The truth is, teens need to know their parents care.
Here are some ways you can show your teen that you care… Read more
Domestic Violence and its Effects on Self-Esteem
March 11, 2008
Domestic violence is an issue that has plagued America for years on end. Statistics have shown that about 90% of partner violence involves women being abused by their counterpart. Even more saddening than this, between 3.3 million and 10 million children are exposed to domestic violence every year.
These statistics only further prove that domestic violence is not only a frequently occurring incident, but it contributes to negative patterns for children. It is easy to see then, how domestic violence can have a huge negative impact on self-esteem, of both the abused victim as well as children who are a part of the setting.
There are countless negative side effects on an abused victim’s self-esteem. Such negative effects include:
- Aggressive behavior
- Conduct problems at home and school
- Poor school performance and learning disabilities
- Inability to concentrate
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Inability to sleep
- Changes in appetite
- Social incompetence
- Emotional numbing
- Continual focus on the violent events
As you can see from this limited list of negative side effects, the psychological impact surrounding domestic violence is immense. Every one of these things leads to a greater decrease in self-esteem.
The destructive impact that domestic violence has on a person’s self-esteem is enormous. If you know someone who is suffering under domestic violence, offer to help them get protection and help they need. You can never force someone to get out of a violent situation, but you can offer assistance to them and provide the help they need when they’re ready for it.
