Don’t Get Trapped in Negativity
October 29, 2009
Are you a Negative Nelly? Do you find yourself automatically jumping to the wrong conclusion, or expecting the worst to happen in every situation? If so, you’re probably stuck in the negativity trap. Here are some pointers on how to keep yourself from being trapped there forever.
Create your own path.
People who tend to follow others without even considering another path tend to end up in a sea of negativity. Why? Mostly because after you’ve done that for a long time, you start to wonder why in the world you aren’t doing things differently. This leads to feelings of regret and then anger and resentment towards other people who swayed you. To prevent this, forge your own path ahead. It’s not necessarily bad to listen to others’ opinions or follow sage advice, but be certain you are staying true to yourself as well.
Stay away from the nay-sayers.
It’s no big secret that hanging around negative people will eventually make you become one of them, too. If you don’t want this to happen, you have to be extremely cautious about who you spend time with. Are your friends negative? Do they get together often just to have gossip sessions about other people? Do they laugh at and make fun of others? You have to stay away from negative people, and people who do not support and encourage you and others. You can be sure if they are laughing with you when you’re together, they will laugh at you as soon as you turn your back.
Practice positive thinking.
The one sure way to make sure you don’t get trapped in negativity is to practice being a positive person every single day. This doesn’t mean you won’t ever have bad days. And in the beginning, it won’t be so easy to stay positive despite all the setbacks. But the more you practice smiling and speaking positively to yourself and others, the easier it will become, until eventually over time it will become second nature to you.
Additional Resource: The Power of Positive Thinking
How To Remove Fear From Mind
September 7, 2009
Fear is the number one thing that controls many people. When you become consumed by fear, you lose all control of yourself. Fear controls every part of your life. If fear has consumed your mind, you might feel….
- afraid to leave your home.
- afraid to talk to people you don’t know.
- afraid people you do know will judge you if they knew the truth.
Fear just builds constantly on itself until you reach a point where you are totally out of control and you don’t even know how you became that way. The good news is, fear can be conquered. It will take diligence and hard work, but you can do it. Here are some tips to help you start removing fear from your mind.
Redirect your thoughts.
The first step is to change your way of thinking. You can talk yourself into, or out of, many things. When you can learn how to change your thoughts, you will begin taking the first step to remove fear. Become consciously aware of your thoughts, when you begin feeling fearful, and the role your thought process plays in this. As you become aware of your thoughts leading you to a fearful mindset, you can start actively redirecting your thoughts to positive, happier things that will reduce—or eliminate—the fear you feel.
Face your fear head-on.
Often times, the thing you fear will never come to pass. Because you have trained your mind to allow negative thoughts snowball into a mindset of fear, you often shy away from fully living your life. It is important, then, to attack these unfounded fears by meeting them head-on. When you do this, you will discover two things. First, your fears are not based on truth or evidence. Second, the only thing holding you back is…YOU.
Practice a more positive attitude.
The quicker you retrain your brain to start speaking positive thoughts to yourself, instead of terribly negative ones that stirs up that inner fear, the faster you will see a recovery. Shaping a better thought process for yourself will help in reducing your fears. To do this, though, you have to actively change the way you think. Creating a more positive attitude with positive affirmations is a great place to start this process. As you repeat positive thoughts to yourself every day, you will eventually begin to experience a shift in your mind and thought process. For example, if you are fearful of driving a car because you are afraid you’ll be in a car accident, you need to learn how to reframe that negative self-talk to create a more positive attitude for yourself. Using positive affirmations can help you pinpoint your fear and change the way you think about driving to make it a more positive experience.
Positive Thinking Quotes To Get You Going
October 14, 2008
If you struggle with a negative attitude, it can be difficult to change it. Developing that negative way of thinking is something that happened gradually over a period of time. Reading positive thinking quotes can be very helpful in the shift of your attitude.
Reading quotes can literally cause you to stop and think about things in a different way. They can make you realize that your situation might not be as bad as you thought. They can open your eyes to a different perspective that you’ve never had before.
Here are some terrific quotes about positive thinking. Read them and write down your thoughts on them in a journal:
“Just because you’re miserable doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your life.” -Annette Goodheart
“Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.” -Anthony J. D’Angelo, The College Blue Book
“He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts.” -Samuel Johnson
“If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get that you don’t want.” -Oscar Wilde
“Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.” -Bill Meyer
“Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.” –Voltaire
“The only disability in life is a bad attitude.” -Scott Hamilton
As you read each quote, did you begin to notice any shift in your attitude? Did any of the quotes make you feel like you wanted to try to have a better attitude? Positive thinking quotes will get you going every time. When you start to feel pessimistic, stop and read a few more quotes to inspire and motivate yourself.
