Don’t Get Trapped in Negativity
October 29, 2009
Are you a Negative Nelly? Do you find yourself automatically jumping to the wrong conclusion, or expecting the worst to happen in every situation? If so, you’re probably stuck in the negativity trap. Here are some pointers on how to keep yourself from being trapped there forever.
Create your own path.
People who tend to follow others without even considering another path tend to end up in a sea of negativity. Why? Mostly because after you’ve done that for a long time, you start to wonder why in the world you aren’t doing things differently. This leads to feelings of regret and then anger and resentment towards other people who swayed you. To prevent this, forge your own path ahead. It’s not necessarily bad to listen to others’ opinions or follow sage advice, but be certain you are staying true to yourself as well.
Stay away from the nay-sayers.
It’s no big secret that hanging around negative people will eventually make you become one of them, too. If you don’t want this to happen, you have to be extremely cautious about who you spend time with. Are your friends negative? Do they get together often just to have gossip sessions about other people? Do they laugh at and make fun of others? You have to stay away from negative people, and people who do not support and encourage you and others. You can be sure if they are laughing with you when you’re together, they will laugh at you as soon as you turn your back.
Practice positive thinking.
The one sure way to make sure you don’t get trapped in negativity is to practice being a positive person every single day. This doesn’t mean you won’t ever have bad days. And in the beginning, it won’t be so easy to stay positive despite all the setbacks. But the more you practice smiling and speaking positively to yourself and others, the easier it will become, until eventually over time it will become second nature to you.
Additional Resource: The Power of Positive Thinking
5 Reasons to Make Your Words Sweet As Honey
April 24, 2009
Have you ever had one of those bad days when you felt irritable at everyone that crossed your path? Sure you have; we all have had those days. It is important to remember regardless of how much you might want to say something snappy, to keep your words as nice as possible. Keep these five points in mind the next time you feel like spouting your angry energy at others.
Here are five good reasons you should try to be nicer:
Reason #1) You are someone’s role model. Whether you realize it or not, there is always someone watching you. They are learning from your actions and conversations. They are taking note of how you live your life because they want to emulate it.
Reason #2) You are only in control of your own life. You do not have control over anything other than yourself. The situations that cause you frustration and irritation are all outside your command. However, you do have the final say on how you react to those situations.
Reason #3) You are leaving a legacy. Every footprint you make in this world is one that will stay behind forever after you are gone. Do you want your legacy to be a negative one, or positive?
Reason #4) You never know when your words will come back to haunt you. Parents understand their children are a mirror of them. Likewise, your environment is very often a reflection of your attitude and thought process. Be careful what you say, because if it is negative, you never know when it will return to bite you in the rear.
Reason #5) Life is too short for you to be ugly. Why not just be nice? Even if you don’t feel like it, being nice will almost always diffuse any offensive situation you might encounter.
Like it or not, being nice pays off. If you don’t agree, try it the next time you feel your anger growing. See if altering your attitude and saying something nicer changes things for you.
Change Your Outlook On Life
August 19, 2008
Are you becoming a pessimistic person? Do you commonly find things that are wrong, rather than the positives in any given situation? It’s time to change your outlook on life.
Did you know that just by changing your outlook on life you can actually improve your health? Here are some quick tips you can use, starting now:
Practice positive thinking. There’s only one way you will change your way of thinking—with lots of practice. In order to create new habits, you must repeatedly practice it on a daily basis. So put on your positive thinking hat.
Look for the good things. It doesn’t take much effort to point out everything that’s wrong. When you find yourself nit-picking, make yourself stop and then purposefully look for something good, instead.
Forgive, even if you can’t forget. The old saying, “Forgive and forget” has been used quite a bit throughout the years. But we all know that forgiving is often times easier than forgetting. Take a small step towards forgiveness. While you won’t forget what happened, forgiveness prevents bitterness, which is extremely taxing, on both your soul and your mind.
Be ready for the best. No matter what kind of life you’ve had up to this point, there is always hope for the future. If you’ve been struggling, prepare yourself for better things to come. Sometimes the darkest night is just before the dawn.
