Define Your Core Beliefs

A core belief is a belief you hold deep inside. Much like a moral, core beliefs are your centrifuge and lead the direction you take in your life. If you don’t know what your core beliefs are, and your life seems in total disarray right now, that could be why. Let’s take a look at how core beliefs are formed, and what they mean.

A core belief is created when you do something that goes against your personal values. It becomes an inner message you play over and over to yourself, until you begin to believe it—whether it’s true or not.

One simple example of this is an abused woman. She starts out in a great relationship, and then one day out of the blue, her husband slaps her out of anger and calls her stupid. Later, he apologizes, but then the next week this same scenario is played out again, only he gets more physically violent with her.

This scene continues playing out, each time the husband telling her how worthless and stupid she is. Eventually, the woman has heard this same message again and again: “You’re stupid. You’re worthless.” And she begins to believe it. It becomes a core value.

Every time she does something and fails, she reminds herself, “I’m stupid. I’m worthless. That’s why I can’t do anything right.” Another core value is taking shape: she can’t do anything right.

As you can see, these core beliefs start taking on lives of their own. Sometimes this happens and you don’t even realize it because these are inner messages you play in your mind. But they become real to you and govern the way you think and live. They also become a deciding factor. You decide if you’re good enough, smart enough, sexy enough…

Learning to release these negative core beliefs and define better ones is recommended. In order to do this, you have to reprogram your way of thinking. This can be done with positive affirmations. Sometimes counseling and therapy are necessary to help purge all the negative input you’ve experienced that formed your current core beliefs.

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