So many people are able to forgive others, but can’t seem to forgive themselves. If you find yourself in this position, why do you find it so hard to forgive yourself? Do you feel unworthy?

If you can forgive others for mistakes they’ve made, then why can’t you forgive yourself? Often times, the reason stems from a deep psychological standpoint. If you’ve done something that you consider to be terrible and you are finding it hard to forgive yourself, there is hope. I want to show you four steps that you can start using today that will help you learn how to forgive yourself.

Step 1: Accept what happened. Do you find it hard to accept the mistake you made? Maybe you’re telling yourself you can’t believe you were so stupid as to make such an awful mistake. You’re not the first to feel this way.

First, you must acknowledge and accept your mistake. Acknowledge it for what it was. You messed up. You made a mistake. But now you can learn from it.

Step 2: Move forward from here. Now that you have acknowledged your mistake, it’s time to move on. How? Stop allowing that mistake to be thrown in your face and played like a guilt card. When you think about it, tell yourself to STOP and immediately change your thought process. Stop dwelling on the past. Live for today.

Step 3: Learn from your mistakes. There is a lesson to be learned in everything. Did you learn from your mistake? If not, then take a few minutes right now to stop and think about it. Why did you make the mistake? What led to it? How could it have been prevented? What can you do NOW to change what happened then?

Step 4: Allow room for future mistakes. Look, nobody’s perfect. We’re all human, all prone to mistakes. To think that you’ll never make another mistake is foolish. You can, however, plan ahead.

You can start by remembering that there is something to be learned in every mistake. If you spoke too harshly and hurt someone’s feelings last month and you can’t seem to forgive yourself for speaking out of turn, I’ll bet you’ll remember that the next time a similar situation arises, before you speak.

Use all your mistakes as stepping stones of learning experiences. Life is a learning process. Grow with it.

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