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Does the Law of Attraction Really Work?
February 25, 2010
After a lot of hype about the law of attraction for a few years, the flame from this simple concept seems to have died down. This has left many of you wondering if the law of attraction even really works. The answer is yes. The law of attraction is rooted in your mind and thoughts.
Your thoughts create your reality.
Whether or not you even realize it, you have created your reality up to this point with your thoughts. If you have a good life that you love, it is because you aimed your thoughts at creating such a reality. If you are miserable with where you are in life, then it’s most likely because your thought patterns were negative and detrimental to yourself. If you tell yourself you are unhappy, you will be unhappy. It’s that simple.
Change your thoughts to change your life.
If you don’t like your career, why haven’t you changed it yet? For most people, fear is a driving factor. When you become afraid of changing something in your life, the grip of fear will hold you right where you are, even though you are miserable. The only way you can change your life, starting right now, is to change the way you think.
Positive thoughts lead to a more pleasing outcome.
Beginning today, make a conscious choice to change the way you think. It won’t be easy, but you can do it. If you are pessimistic by nature, it will be a bit more challenging for you, simply because you are used to seeing the proverbial glass as half-empty. To get started, you might need to write down some positive affirmations, which will help create a mental shift for you.
Start looking for good things.
The law of attraction isn’t difficult to understand or use. What it boils down to is putting your mind in the right place, so that your thinking can change and you can start to believe and look for good things to happen in your life. Until you can do this, you probably won’t see many, if any, results. You can’t attract $100,000 if you don’t believe it is yours already. You won’t attract your dream career if you can’t envision yourself in that position. Dream and believe that anything is possible.
Don’t Get Trapped in Negativity
October 29, 2009
Are you a Negative Nelly? Do you find yourself automatically jumping to the wrong conclusion, or expecting the worst to happen in every situation? If so, you’re probably stuck in the negativity trap. Here are some pointers on how to keep yourself from being trapped there forever.
Create your own path.
People who tend to follow others without even considering another path tend to end up in a sea of negativity. Why? Mostly because after you’ve done that for a long time, you start to wonder why in the world you aren’t doing things differently. This leads to feelings of regret and then anger and resentment towards other people who swayed you. To prevent this, forge your own path ahead. It’s not necessarily bad to listen to others’ opinions or follow sage advice, but be certain you are staying true to yourself as well.
Stay away from the nay-sayers.
It’s no big secret that hanging around negative people will eventually make you become one of them, too. If you don’t want this to happen, you have to be extremely cautious about who you spend time with. Are your friends negative? Do they get together often just to have gossip sessions about other people? Do they laugh at and make fun of others? You have to stay away from negative people, and people who do not support and encourage you and others. You can be sure if they are laughing with you when you’re together, they will laugh at you as soon as you turn your back.
Practice positive thinking.
The one sure way to make sure you don’t get trapped in negativity is to practice being a positive person every single day. This doesn’t mean you won’t ever have bad days. And in the beginning, it won’t be so easy to stay positive despite all the setbacks. But the more you practice smiling and speaking positively to yourself and others, the easier it will become, until eventually over time it will become second nature to you.
Additional Resource: The Power of Positive Thinking
Affirmations to Combat Fear
September 21, 2009
Does fear control your life? Do you find yourself making decisions based on your fears? You can used positive affirmations to combat fear and start living a happier, fearless life today. Try these to get you started…
- I am full of courage.
- I am strong and have nothing to fear.
- My fears are based on imaginations. Reality tells me everything is okay.
- I am in control of my mind.
- I live my life with bravery.
- There is nothing too big for me to handle.
For more help on combating your fears, read Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears
Depression List—5 Ways to Deal With Depression
September 12, 2009
If you have been depressed and haven’t been able to figure out how to help yourself out of it, you might feel hopeless. There is hope, though, and measures you can take to start feeling better as you work with your doctor on this medical issue.
Depression List
Here are five very simple ways to deal with depression…
- Get plenty of rest. Even if you don’t think you have trouble sleeping at night, you may not be getting enough rest. When your mind is in turmoil and you deal with feelings like guilt, your sleep may become restless. Or, maybe you aren’t sleeping very much. Allow yourself afternoon naps or an early bedtime to catch up on the rest you’re losing.
- Listen to soothing music. Music has been proven to stimulate the brain. Rather than listening to pop or country tunes, whose lyrics might make you think about things that won’t help your depressive mood, turn on soothing classical or jazz music.
- Relax. In addition to getting plenty of rest through sleep, you need to allow yourself time to unwind and just relax each day, especially if you have the added pressure of a stressful job or home life. Something as simple as a bubble bath, or a special trip to your favorite coffee shop could help relax you.
- Seek weekly counseling. If you aren’t already seeing a counselor, this could be a productive way to spend an hour or so of your time each week to help you deal with depression. You might need a third party that you can vent to about what’s bothering you. All too often, people who are depressed hold in a lot of fears, anxieties, and problems, which only feed into the depression.
- See a doctor. If you are experiencing severe symptoms of depression and know that you aren’t just sad, perhaps it is time to schedule an appointment with your family physician. Your doctor can assess the situation and determine what kind of treatment you require. Don’t wait until you are too depressed to lift your head. Seek help as soon as possible.
Need more help? Read Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness
5 Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem
September 11, 2009
Self-esteem is the inner feeling of pride or worth that a person possesses. Those will poor self-esteem often hold feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing inside. They often struggle to feel like they are important or have a place in their world. They might even feel lost or hopeless, like nothing they say or do ever matters or makes a difference. If you are struggling with these, or similar feelings, you might have low self-esteem.
Low Self-Esteem Symptoms
Low self-esteem symptom #1: I’m worthless. Do you feel like you aren’t good enough? Like you just can’t measure up, no matter what you do or how hard you try?
Low self-esteem symptom #2: It’s hopeless. Do you feel like even though you try, your situation remains hopeless? Like you will never find hope in it?
Low self-esteem symptom #3: I can’t do it. Do you constantly tell yourself you can’t do something? Or you aren’t capable of accomplishing something?
Low self-esteem symptom #4: I’ll never amount to anything. Do you often berate yourself, rarely giving yourself credit for any of your skills or talents?
Low self-esteem symptom #5: Everybody’s laughing at me. Do you feel like others are staring at you or talking about you behind your back? Is it hard to receive constructive feedback from others?
These are just a few symptoms of low self-esteem. These could give you a clue that this is an area of your life you need to work on.
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